Weight Loss Surgery May Change Your Relationships


When people make dramatic transformations in their lives through weight loss, a lot of things change. To say that emotions can run high is simply stating the obvious. One of the ways those emotions can be triggered is how people change the way the treat you.

You will likely feel better and more confident about your appearance. This will almost inevitably change how you carry yourself, and hence, how people will react to you and treat you.

While reactions will generally be positive, these changes may create newfound stress in your life. That may sound counterintuitive to some people, which is why it’s so important for bariatric patients to prepare themselves mentally prior to their procedure, so they can handle whatever comes their way.

Here’s a look at the different people in your life, how their relationship with you might change, and how you can prepare for it:

Start with Yourself

It may sound odd to think of having a relationship with yourself, but you need to start with addressing how you treat yourself before you can even think about successfully managing external relationships.

Your Significant Other

Whether you are married or dating, your partner could very well change how they interact with you. Even if they are truly in love with you, there may be unconscious changes. It’s not uncommon for some people to feel a sense of loss. This isn’t a conscious selfish reaction, but your dramatic transformation is almost like you have become a different person.

Your newfound confidence may be intimidating, since they may have grown accustomed to your leaning on them through emotional insecurities. The new you may feel a sense of liberation, rendering that part of their role in your life obsolete.

This is why couples should seriously consider attending support meetings together. In some instances, the spouse or partner can meet with a healthcare professional on their own to share their feelings.

Family and Friends

The emotional challenges from your parents may be different from dad to mom. There are no set rules for how each will react to your weight loss, but, generally speaking mothers sometimes feel a sense of guilt, as if they are responsible for putting you in the situation. Dads sometimes withdraw, which isn’t usually meant to be a sign of disapproval, just a symptom of communication issues common with men.

It’s important to treat children with respect, particularly if they have questions about what’s going on. This can be tricky if you choose to keep your procedure private and are concerned they will divulge it to others.

Siblings and friends might very well be supportive, but they also may feel down about losing the shared experience they may have once had with food and drinks.

The changes you will experience after weight loss surgery will not just be physical. The people in your lives affect you in significant ways, hopefully for the better, but be prepared for intentional or unintentional hurdles they may present you with.

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